Stassi Schroeder Made Some Appalling Statements In A Now-Deleted Podcast Episode
Everyone done gagging? Still with me? Cool. I’ll cushion my summary of this episode with the good news here: Backlash to her commentary has been immediate, with three of her biggest advertisers pulling out overnight and publicly denouncing the views she carried. Schroeder has also since taken down this particular podcast episode, and posted an apology on Twitter on November 25, in which she states that she “crossed a line” and pledges to “put more suppose behind[ her] dialogue moving forward.”
Regrettably, that wasn’t Schroeder’s first reaction. Before she caught gust of the fact that she might actually lose money from this, she took the stance that “about 5 ppl hear this podcast” and everybody else just heard “ONE quote without the backstory or context of a TWO hour episode.” So, aside from the fact that that ONE quote was that aforementioned tidbit about how easy it is to not suck someone’s dick( which can FYI be loosely translated as “I don’t is argued that sexual assault can happen” ), which I have a hard time believe ANY context would reasonably cushion, I’d like to go on record as someone who did listen to the entire two-hour podcast and say that quote was barely even the worst of it.
The heart of the issue with Schroeder’s commentary was this: She used her personal, apparently sexual assault-free, experience in Hollywood as the “correct” version of the state of the industry, and, working from that view, proceeded to call the women coming forward liars( either about the events themselves, or the extent of their consent ), notoriety whores( for coming forward with these narratives now, when it’s “trendy” ), and somehow either weak or implicitly guilty for having allowed these events to occur–since again, neither Stassi herself nor any of her acquaintances have personally been raped in hotel rooms. Further, while she plummets a line every now and then for the so-called “real victims”( which she believes is around 50% of those who have come forward ), the true recipients of her sympathy are the men of Hollywood: the individuals who she panics ought to have falsely accused, those who are “too afraid to flirt” now that we’re amidst a “male witch hunt, ” and those whose behavior, like “grabbing an ass” or “a breast” does not qualify as real assault, and do not deserve the backlash they’re receiving for it.
While my hackles have been up about Schroeder’s politics ever since the season 1 episode where her father fissures “you’re not a Democrat, are you? ” at then-boyfriend Frank, I was still shocked and frustrated at the things I heard Stassi say in this podcast. Some of the best contentions against what Stassi is saying are even make use of Stassi herself–when she meditates “who’d want to hire someone who lied about rape, ” as a lane of questioning the intelligence the women she perceives as liars, she’s making a good point: women who come forward with allegations are perfectly likely to suffer diminished job prospects, alongside public shaming, discrediting, and character assassination like Stassi herself so happily served up. These wives are not, then, simply hop-skip on a “trend” with little thought of the consequences like that time you bought gaucho pants–they’ve stayed silent for years due to fear of these consequences, and are speaking up now because the Weinstein takedown has chiseled a tiny fissure of light into an institution long be deemed to be impenetrable. These wives have decided that their personal sacrifices are worth it if they can help a larger cause–and when Stassi announced today “it’s understood” that young women moving to LA will be propositioned for sex in professional decideds, and they “should have known, ” she’s both attacking rape victims’ intelligence and stating her acceptance of the system they’re trying to dismantle.
Because I was an ardent Stassi fan up to this level, I want to say a few things to her directly: Just because this is the way Hollywood “has always been, ” you don’t have to accept that it won’t change. Just because we’ve “all ascertained dicks we didn’t want to, ” and all had our “asses grabbed at a party” doesn’t make it okay, and you shouldn’t use a fixed precedent as a future purpose. Remember how Jax set a precedent of being a cheating, lying asshole, and instead of continuing to date him and being okay with it when he cheated and lied again, you drank his alcohol, threw out his things, and cut him out of their own lives? You think of yourself as royalty, and refer to your devotees as Khaleesis: determined the expectation that we be treated like queens. Queens don’t walk out into this world and tailor their behavior so as to best avoid rape despite the constant, expected menace that it could happen; they walk out and inspire respect, and appear the fuckers who would dare treat them otherwise in the eyes as they burn them to the ground. You are a master of retaliation, and of imposing painful justice; for a moment, threw some faith in the women whose experiences you don’t share, and used to help do the same.