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A guide to achieving your 2018 self-care resolutions

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After an October week from inferno — when allegations against Harvey Weinstein first began to unravel, Donald Trump threatened to take aid away from Puerto Rico, women boycotted Twitter, and historical wildfires destroyed California — I splurged on a large Blue Raspberry Icee and sat alone in a 12:15 p.m. Saturday showing of Marshall. I became my phone all the way off, and over the course of the next two hours I ugly cried in the dark.

Afterwards, I drove to a bookstore and spent $82.47. I went home, applied a face mask and collapsed onto my bed, escaping into the pages of one of my new books for hours. I satisfied my friend for dinner, cherished every single bite of a cheeseburger, rushed back to my pillow, and fell asleep before watching re-runs of The Mindy Project.

This was my own personal shape of self-care.

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For so many, self-care has been the unsung savior of 2017. You’ve likely heard the term hurled around daily, but reading exactly what it means and why it’s so essential will help to better practice it in the new year.

Am I doing this thing right?

Self-care methods — personalized rites that allow people to take a step back from this messy world to prioritize their well-being and save their mental health — differ for private individuals and in each scenario, so there’s genuinely no right or wrong.

For Hillary Clinton self-care could mean anything from frenzied wardrobe cleaning, long walkings in the woods, and playing with her bird-dogs, to yoga or sitting down to enjoy a glass of wine. For Michael Phelps, who’s conquered the pressures of Olympic competition but has struggled with depression and nervousnes over the years, it’s working out or heading to the golf course. The only constant is that methods of self-care must benefit and focus on you.

“A lot of periods people will say ‘I spend time with my children, ‘ which is great and meaningful but that’s still taking care of somebody else, ” said Monnica Williams, Ph.D ., a clinical psychologist and associate prof at University of Connecticut’s Department of Psychological Sciences. “When you self-care it’s really about you recharging.”

Self-care isn’t selfish

Some people abstain from self-care for fear that their behavior would come across as selfish. They simply can’t resist the advise to throw other people first.

According to a 2017 “Women’s Wellness Report” from Everyday Health, which investigated 3,000 girls from ages 25 to 65 in the U.S ., 76 percent of women said they were were more likely to put their own personal needs after someone else’s. Nonetheless, more than half of the participants said that taking hour for themselves was the greatest factor in achieving wellness.( Revealing: Mashable and Everyday Health are owned by the same corporation, Ziff Davis .)

“You can’t be the best you in any other contexts if you’re not taking care of yourself.”

“It’s essential for your mental health issues and your physical health, ” Williams said , noting that self-care is anything but selfish. “You can’t be the best you in any other contexts if you’re not taking care of yourself.”

“I heard person say that it’s like putting on your own oxygen mask in an airplane emergency before putting one on a child, ” added Crystal Park, another prof at the University of Connecticut’s Department of Psychological Sciences.

“The healthier and more resilient we are, the more effective we can be in our lives.”

Heading into 2018 with some solid self-care guidelines will help you better manage your stress and survive whatever challenges are in store, so here are a few is maintaining mind.

Don’t be afraid to take a mental health day

Your mental health is important, but it’s also extremely easy to discount. When your job is way too overwhelming or events in your personal life prevent or confuse you from doing your best work in the office it’s time to take a step back.

For inspiration, seem no further than one of 2017’s viral personal narrations: the story of Olark CEO Ben Congleton advocating for his employee after reading she’d taken time off for mental health reasons.